As a woman, what is one thing you absolutely cannot stand about men?

A large percentage of men (I emphasize the “large percentage” because there is never a shortage of those who accuse me of generalizing when I write these types of answers) see women as merely ancillary, and have this perspective so ingrained that they are unable to question it for themselves. and, when someone else questions them, they get offended or even angry.

By “accessories,” I mean a lot of things. On the one hand, there is the physically accessory. They see us as an object that is there to give them pleasure, be it visual, physical or emotional. We are judged by ugly, beautiful, fat, thin, old, young, “nacas”, “strawberries” and endless contradictory adjectives. Whoever it is, it is always important to take into account our physical appearance. It is enough to see how, when a woman is judged (whether we know her in person or she is a public figure), reference is always made to some physical “defect” to add to the list of insults, even if it is that the reason he arouses the displeasure occasioned by criticism is merely because of his character. This in particular is very ironic to me because, in my personal experience, It happens to a greater extent with men who do not fall within the standard attractiveness. This doesn’t happen anywhere near as often with men when they are criticized or appreciated, which is particularly noticeable with public figures. They don’t judge their way of dressing, their way of expressing themselves, if they have good hair, if they look tired, and sometimes not even if they are violent.

Another facet of our accessory quality is the social one. Being that we represent a large percentage of the population, we are still seen as the “variant” of the human being, a term that many use interchangeably with the word “man”. The man is the standard, the woman is the otherness, the second edition, the deformity. Men’s rights are the norm, while women’s rights are a post-idea, something they remember after someone asks “what about women?” It may sound like an exaggeration, but it becomes clear when a woman is in a room with only men and seems invisible (unless someone wants to pick her up), while when it comes to a room full of women and few men, or they are the center of attention, or they are not, but they certainly do not lack attention. Even in my city it is very customary that, when family gatherings are held, men sit at one table to “talk about men’s things” (politics, sports, “old women”), and women at another to “talk about women’s things” ( family, gossip, whatever we’re supposed to talk about, because apparently we don’t have the intellectual capacity to talk about politics, unless we dedicate ourselves to that). I repeat, not all men fall into this segregation, but a large number do. Another aspect where this becomes apparent to me is in the relatively new gender parity policy in Mexico. 

Many men have complained that with the 50% male, 50% female requirement, we are taking jobs away from capable men. No one ever complains that capable women are being taken away from us. When family gatherings are held, the men sit at one table to “talk about men’s things” (politics, sports, “old women”), and the women at another to “talk about women’s things” (family, gossip, what whatever we are supposed to talk about, because apparently we don’t have the intellectual capacity to talk about politics, unless we dedicate ourselves to that). I repeat, not all men fall into this segregation, but a large number do. Another aspect where this becomes apparent to me is in the relatively new gender parity policy in Mexico. Many men have complained that with the 50% male, 50% female requirement, we are taking jobs away from capable men. No one ever complains that capable women are being taken away from us. When family gatherings are held, the men sit at one table to “talk about men’s things” (politics, sports, “old women”), and the women at another to “talk about women’s things” (family, gossip, what whatever we are supposed to talk about, because apparently we don’t have the intellectual capacity to talk about politics, unless we dedicate ourselves to that). I repeat, not all men fall into this segregation, but a large number do. 

Another aspect where this becomes apparent to me is in the relatively new gender parity policy in Mexico. Many men have complained that with the 50% male, 50% female requirement, we are taking jobs away from capable men. No one ever complains that capable women are being taken away from us. the men sit at one table to “talk about men’s things” (politics, sports, “old women”), and the women at another to “talk about women’s things” (family, gossip, whatever they talk about). suppose we talk, because apparently we do not have the intellectual capacity to talk about politics, unless we dedicate ourselves to it). I repeat, not all men fall into this segregation, but a large number do. Another aspect where this becomes apparent to me is in the relatively new gender parity policy in Mexico. Many men have complained that with the 50% male, 50% female requirement, we are taking jobs away from capable men. 

No one ever complains that capable women are being taken away from us. the men sit at one table to “talk about men’s things” (politics, sports, “old women”), and the women at another to “talk about women’s things” (family, gossip, whatever they talk about). suppose we talk, because apparently we do not have the intellectual capacity to talk about politics, unless we dedicate ourselves to it). I repeat, not all men fall into this segregation, but a large number do. Another aspect where this becomes apparent to me is in the relatively new gender parity policy in Mexico. Many men have complained that with the 50% male, 50% female requirement, we are taking jobs away from capable men. No one ever complains that capable women are being taken away from us. whatever it is that we are supposed to talk about, because apparently we don’t have the intellectual capacity to talk about politics, unless we dedicate ourselves to that). I repeat, not all men fall into this segregation, but a large number do. 

Another aspect where this becomes apparent to me is in the relatively new gender parity policy in Mexico. Many men have complained that with the 50% male, 50% female requirement, we are taking jobs away from capable men. No one ever complains that capable women are being taken away from us. whatever it is that we are supposed to talk about, because apparently we don’t have the intellectual capacity to talk about politics, unless we dedicate ourselves to that). I repeat, not all men fall into this segregation, but a large number do. Another aspect where this becomes apparent to me is in the relatively new gender parity policy in Mexico. Many men have complained that with the 50% male, 50% female requirement, we are taking jobs away from capable men. No one ever complains that capable women are being taken away from us. Another aspect where this becomes apparent to me is in the relatively new gender parity policy in Mexico. Many men have complained that with the 50% male, 50% female requirement, we are taking jobs away from capable men. No one ever complains that capable women are being taken away from us. Another aspect where this becomes apparent to me is in the relatively new gender parity policy in Mexico. Many men have complained that with the 50% male, 50% female requirement, we are taking jobs away from capable men. No one ever complains that capable women are being taken away from us.

Another of our accessory qualities, also linked to the social, is the fact that our opinions only matter when they please the men present, or the patriarchy. Feminist women are dirty “feminazis” who should learn from the beautiful and sweet Christian women who “value life” and “know their place”. If a man agrees with a woman, she is “intelligent” or as I have seen it said by certain men “intelligent for a woman” , but if he does not agree, he infantilizes her or accuses her of being unable to think with her brain. instead of emotions.

For most women this is obvious, but the lack of empathy in many men is such that it is not only invisible, but impossible.